Constance's Story

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Constance's Story

My wife, Constance, and our two daughters, Chloe and Lily, passed away during the Gatlinburg, Tennessee wildfires in 2016. My wife was an adult survivor of childhood abuse and molestation. The effects of that abuse haunted her into her adult years. PTSD, anxiety, and fear were an everyday reality of her life.

My wife’s one true hope for her life was to help others who’d experienced the same kind of trauma that she did. Now that she’s gone, it’s up to me to help make Constance’s life-long wish come true.


Constance's Video

In 2015, Constance made a video talking about her abuse. In it, she discussed the deep scars she wore every day living as an adult survivor.

Making this video was very difficult for her to do. She was brave, empowered, and so strong for coming forward.

Click the image above to view her video.

Sign the petition

In honor of Constance and our two daughters, we are petitioning both the US Congress as well as all 50 states to pass what we have called "Constance's Bill".

Constance's Bill is a nationwide text alert number for children. If a child is in danger, they can text the word "HELP" to that alert number, and the message will immediately be forwarded to their local law enforcement agency. If a child is in danger, he/she may not be able to call 911 in fear of their attacker hearing them on the phone. This text alert empowers children and provides a voice to the voiceless.

  Children are abused across our country every day. We can keep them safe with this simple program.

Click the photo above to sign the petition today!

Statistics

How common is child sexual abuse?

1 in 5 girls and 1 in 20 boys is a victim of child sexual abuse;

Self-report studies show that 20% of adult females and 5-10% of adult males recall a childhood sexual assault or sexual abuse incident;

During a one-year period in the U.S., 16% of youth ages 14 to 17 had been sexually victimized;

Over the course of their lifetime, 28% of U.S. youth ages 14 to 17 had been sexually victimized;

Children are most vulnerable to CSA between the ages of 7 and 13.

Long-term effects of childhood abuse

If you experienced sexual abuse as a child, you may encounter a range of short- and long-term effects that many survivors face. Adult survivors of child sexual abuse may have some of the following concerns that are specific to their experience:

Guilt, shame, and blame. You might feel guilty about not having been able to stop the abuse, or even blame yourself if you experienced physical pleasure. It is important for you to understand that it was the person that hurt you that should be held accountable—not you.

Intimacy and relationships. It’s possible that your first experiences with sex came as a result of sexual abuse. As an adult, intimacy might be a struggle at times. Some survivors experience flashbacks or painful memories while engaging in sexual activity, even though it is consensual and on their own terms. Survivors may also struggle to set boundaries that help them feel safe in relationships.

Self-esteem. You may struggle with low self-esteem, which can be a result of the negative messages you received from your abuser(s), and from having your personal safety violated or ignored. Low self-esteem can affect many different areas of your life such as your relationships, your career, and even your health.

Are you a victim?

Are you being abused?

If you are being abused right now, chances are you are very afraid. Please know that what has happened to you is not your fault.

Who do I tell?

Find someone you can trust and tell them what is going on. If the person hurting you is a family member, consider talking to someone at your school or church.

Am I in trouble?

You are absolutely NOT in trouble for telling the truth.

What will happen now?

When you tell someone you trust, they should contact the proper authorities for help. You may also need to go to the hospital briefly so that a doctor can make sure you are okay.

Who do I call if I can't tell anyone what is going on?

RAINN:  800.656.HOPE 

CHILDHELP:  800.4.A.CHILD 

DARKNESS TO LIGHT:  866.FOR.LIGHT 

Are there any other options?

We are working now with state and federal government agencies to create a National Text Alert number for children in your situation. As soon as this is available, this site will be updated with more information.

Start The Conversation

Constance's story has helped thousands of people realize they are not alone. If you would like to tell your story of survival, please submit your information below and we will contact you as soon as possible.

Faith. Hope. Love.

#ShedTheShame™

Were you a victim of childhood sexual abuse? You don't have to feel like a victim anymore. Shed the shame of your past and wear your scars with pride. 


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